Erev Rosh Hashanah 5782
Good evening and L’Shanah Tovah! Last year, our Temple Beth El family experienced a break from the normal High Holy Day experience. We, like every Jewish congregation worldwide, were faced with having to connect via the computer, the phone, and other miscellaneous technological means. While we did have some hiccups, we were able to put on quite a production. And, just like last year, I (we) owe a tremendous amount of gratitude to all of those who helped us make sure this year’s High Holy Day experience is authentic and real for every congregant.
As early as February of this year, your congregational board began discussing what this year’s High Holy Days would look and feel like. What we wanted was to create as close to the “real life in person” experience as we would be able. While I am saddened that we are not here together in the Temple Beth El sanctuary, I am thankful for the various ways in which we were able to improve on last year’s High Holy Days experience: we have a brand-new Livestream program, complete with top of the line cameras; our choir is live, rather than via a recording; we have video recordings of our Torah readers; and of course our sound system has been and continues to be managed by Lou Gross, a wonderful asset to our congregation and personally, someone I am proud to call my friend.
I would be remiss, however, if I did not mention the incredible work of the Choir, your TBE Board, the Ritual and Worship Committee, and our HHD Tech crew. Angel continues to be an incredible blessing for Temple Beth El! Most importantly, thank you so much to Tina for all her outstanding hard work in helping to make our congregation continue to prosper during these last 2 years (and really since she started as a part of our TBE family).
Batya and I watch a lot of medical shows. Although there are a lot of similarities between the shows, each one has its own story line, which keeps our attention. One episode came to mind as I was beginning to think about my High Holy Day sermons this year. In the episode, one of the patients was in a “pseudo coma,” often referred to as “Locked-In Syndrome.” The patient was aware of all that was going on around them, but he was unable to respond in any way. While having a conversation with a couple of colleagues at Camp Coleman, I remarked that this past year + was almost like a coma and we are just now beginning to come out of the coma. One of my colleagues remarked that it was more like we were paralyzed and unable to respond, but completely aware of what was going on…. a Locked-In Syndrome of sorts. We are now just beginning to be able to respond and react to what has been going on in our lives – and there has been and continues to be a lot to unpack.
As this year has been so different, even from last year, I wanted to make sure to preach on a topic that would be pertinent to as many of our TBE family as possible. What kept running through my mind was the word “loss.” As we seemingly begin to come out of the “darkness” of the Covid-19 pandemic, and then find ourselves going right back into that darkness, our eyes, our sensibilities, and our entire beings begin to adjust to our new reality. What have we learned in the past year +? What losses have we experienced as individuals, as families, as a community? Before we can even begin to answer these questions, we must define the word loss – and how that affects us. Suffering a loss can be devastating, especially if it was unexpected. What we experienced during and since the COVID Pandemic qualifies as devastating, and there were many ways in which we have felt loss.
A few months ago, I gave a sermon based on the word “grief.” The Parasha for that week was Chukat. As you may remember, this is the Parasha in which Moses loses both his sister, Miriam and his brother, Aaron. Usually, when one thinks of grief, they refer to the loss of someone or something. Grief is not just about death. Grief can also apply to emotional loss – such as what many of us (myself included) have experienced and are still experiencing with regards to the Covid19 Pandemic. According to Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, there are 5 stages of grief: Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. While experiencing grief, some may report other stages and it is also true that people may go from different stage backwards and forwards or multiples times during their grief. Grief is just as unique as each of us!
When Miriam died, the Children of Israel were faced with continuing on their journey to the Promised Land without her. And, to make matters worse, the Torah text seems to ignore any kind of mourning period for Miriam. However, when the people approached Moses, angry at the absence of water, it was clear there was more to the story than just a lack of water. After all, the people had complained about this same issue earlier in the Torah. According to Rabbi Lisa Edwards, we can find some explanation in Numbers 20:2 - the verse tells us the “community was without water.” (Numbers 20:2) Rashi teaches that the juxtaposition of these two verses explains that the Israelites “had water for the whole forty years from [Miriam’s] well on account of the merit of Miriam.”
For the Israelites, losing Miriam was tremendous – for her leadership, her music and for her well. Moses, who would lose his older brother, Aaron, just a few verses later, dealt with tremendous loss. When he approached the rock to ask for water, as God had commanded, he instead struck the rock 2 times. Moses received a very severe punishment – he was not allowed to enter the Promised Land. While he was suffering grief at the loss of his sister, and of course the Children of Israel’s constant complaining, it was his inability to follow God’s instruction and his doubting of God’s power that kept him from entering the Land of Canaan. What must be pointed out as remarkable is that even with the loss of his siblings and the new knowledge of not being able to enter Israel, Moses continues his leadership of the people, until the very end of the Torah.
Some of us in the past year have lost family members to Covid 19 or other sicknesses related to the Pandemic. We have been faced with making end-of-life decisions in a very different world – one in which our services were required to be live-streamed, rather than in person. Some of us were unable to travel to be with family to mourn the loss of a loved one…or even to celebrate the memories we made together. This has been challenging for all of us, for sure.
My dear TBE family – the grief we have all experienced over the past year and a half is very real. For many of us, denial was a very quick stage of grief – we were required to make decisions and observations of very real and dim reality. I am sure that anger will remain with us for quite some time…and yes, there has been a tremendous amount of bargaining as we have worked through the various ways, we are able to move forward into our new normal future. There is still a lot to process and no doubt there is some very real depression still apparent. Eventually, however, we will, together be able to accept what we are faced with and move on together into that new normal future.
I know that sometimes it may seem the Covid-19 Pandemic will never end. When we are tired, worn out and disheartened by the amount of those in need, we must push ourselves to continue. Rather than look out into the world and be discouraged by the grief and loss that never seems to “let up,” we should rejoice in the love we have for each other and for the greatness of our community. We have made it to another Jewish New Year, and we have so much to look forward to in 5782. We are a family and families look out for each other. Families support each other. And we will continue to strive to get through this time together.
It is my hope that in this New Year, we will continue to work together to make our family the greatest Jewish family in Knoxville. Let us strive to welcome in many, many, many more family members in the next year. May God bless every one of us and spread God’s warmth and loving embrace outward to all of those in our world who need it.
Let me conclude this sermon with a poem/prayer I wrote in March…I believe it is still very apropos today.
Covid 19 Pandemic – One Year Later:
Jenny said, “I truly miss seeing my friends and hugging my family.”
George said, “I miss flying, cruising or visiting places without a mask.”
Rabbi Stein said, “I have enjoyed the chance to write new prayers and poetry for services.”
Rabbi Marks said, “Before the Pandemic, I was always nervous about having to kiss or being kissed by everyone.”
Shoshana said, “Now, I can wave and wink at people, not worried about my personal space.”
Jack said, “I have enjoyed getting to know people I never saw before.”
Rabbi Gold said, “What do I do when I see people who want to hug me if I am nervous?”
Cantor Wolfe said, “I am truly exhausted and need a break from my screens.”
Ruth said, “I miss seeing people, for sure, but I have enjoyed my own spaces.”
Bert said, “What do I do if someone reaches out to shake my hand?”
Rabbi Schwartz said, “Breathe, relax and take it one step at a time.”
Cantor Schein said, “I can’t wait to sing and pray without my mask.”
Steven said, “I hope the Temple keeps streaming…I am not ready to go out yet.”
Jacquelyn said, “I do not miss going in the building. I am happy to stay home and pray together with my community virtually.”
May each of us have the patience to look past what we may not understand. May we spread love to all members of our community. May this New Year, 5782, bring us health, peace, and a better tomorrow! L’Shanah Tovah!
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